This is unique advice. Some need to be healed and need to find this in themselves. Some are well enough to help heal others.

REAL STRENGTH
Written by Dr. Joel Wade
Friday, 01 December 2006

When I was a young psychology student I was fortunate to find a mentor in Nathaniel Branden. One day I asked him, "What do you think is the single most important thing that you do with your clients, the one thing that forms the foundation for everything else?"

His answer was simple, but it had a tremendous impact on me. It resonated deeply with core beliefs and values that I held, but didn't have the words for yet:

"I look for the best within people," he said, "and I try to speak directly to that part of them. Even if they do not see it themselves, I look for it, and speak to it, and I don't get thrown off by their negative beliefs about themselves."

To actually do this is one of the most profound acts of taking purposeful command of your perspective on others and yourself that you can engage in.